Now, I hope you all know that chastity can never fix a relationship and should never be used with that sort of expectation in mind. As princess K and I are moving forward in our still rather young relationship there is much for me to learn in it about me about her and about my chastity life under her control.
So after a brief intermission, a lull if you will, I am locked again and things just may be different this time, improved may I dare say? I am more relaxed about being locked, more accepting, well maybe not when I am being teased and squirming.. but in most ways otherwise. I found that complaining or wondering incessantly when will I next get released is somewhat missing the point. It can also be uncomfortable to say the least for the novice key holder or any one for that matter. And after all, giving the control over to the key holder should be first a gift we are offering with trust and affection and not just a burden or a choir.
I've read about this emotional progression experienced by others and I guess that that is true for me too. The initial panic and anxiety subside and then something more powerful, or joyful, in this exchange of control can begin. Same goes for the key holder I believe but I can't, and probably shouldn't speak for Princess K.
I've read about this emotional progression experienced by others and I guess that that is true for me too. The initial panic and anxiety subside and then something more powerful, or joyful, in this exchange of control can begin. Same goes for the key holder I believe but I can't, and probably shouldn't speak for Princess K.
Now on to the new spring.
More to come..
Glad to see you are posting again. You are correct that we tend to obsess about chastity in the beginning. Everybody seems to do it. I guess we are just excited about it. It happened so much in the beginning of our relationship that it turned my spouse off to it. She said I was acting as if chastity was the whole relationship, not just a small part and she was right. When we tried it the second time, I set my mind on just trying to focus on her needs more and taking my cues from her. I didn't mention my locked condition unless she brought it up. Things were much better and she enjoyed the attentiveness and blossomed as a keyholder. An unintended side effect was that her dominant side emerged as well. She has always said I was submissive in the bedroom and this sort of amplified it and her dominance has emerged in other areas of our life. I am quite surprised that I like it very much. I enjoy serving and pampering her. It is often said that once you introduce male chastity into a relationship, things seldom go the way you plan or happen on the timeline you envision. Glad to hear things are going for you again and hope to read more of your experiences.
ReplyDeleteGlad to see you "posting" again. Your insightful replies are at times longer then my posts which kind of make you a co-author of this blog... not a bad concept all together :)
DeleteWorking on my next post already alas I am a slow writer mind you.